I’m not writing this to convince you to believe that changes are always good.
No matter how many silver linings you’ve found in 2020; let’s be real, I think we can all agree that we’ve had enough. Change isn’t always good at the time when it happens; in fact, how could you possibly convince a child whose parents died because of COVID that the change was good for them? It’s always easier to say when we don’t experience the pain first hand, and telling someone to stop feeling sad about what they’ve gone through just shows that one has no sense of empathy with others. However, regardless of how undesirable the disruption is at the time, we got to believe that changes happen for us to be better so that we come out stronger.
The first thing we need to be aware of when facing unwanted changes in our lives is knowing that what we’re going through isn’t unique to us — there are other people out there who are sharing similar situation like us, too. Adjusting our perspective helps us move forward and keep our ego in check so we’re not stuck in the dangerous zone of the “Why me?” mindset.
I see change as my partner-in-crime. Yet change can be hot and cold and all sorts of being unpredictable, I do believe that we need to be present and proactively collaborate with change to really make the best of it — like any other real-life relationships that work, it’s gotta be a two-way street. When change provides you the materials to write the next chapter of your life story, remember that you’re the one who’s in control of the narrative, plus the option to add your own materials too when you want to ;)
So I’m not writing this to tell you whether change is good or bad, but I want to encourage you to also see change as your partner-in-crime and believe in your power to make change happen for the better; because even if it's bad, it will be better, and you will be stronger.
You got the materials. Now, keep writing your story.